You did your best to hold off on divorcing your spouse and starting a new life in Florida until after the holidays, but life had different plans in store for you. While you may not be entirely alone this year, it could be the first holiday season in a while that you have spent as an unmarried person.
To help you get through what should be the most wonderful time of the year, Lifespan has a few tips to offer. Learn how to handle your new family dynamic and make the most of your current situation.
Keep it light
One of the best things you can do for yourself and your nerves is to keep your holiday schedule light. You do not want to overburden yourself with holiday parties, gatherings and the like. This is an especially good idea if you have kids who will split the holidays between two different holidays; you do not want to overload their schedules and risk overwhelming them.
If you have not already done so, sit down with your ex-spouse to schedule holidays with your kids. For instance, maybe you can get the kids for Thanksgiving and they can spend Christmas (or whatever holiday you celebrate) with the other parent. Splitting holidays down the middle is another option, so your kids spend Thanksgiving morning with you and the evening with the other parent.
Try not to give too much
You may have feelings of guilt when it comes to your kids and the divorce, which could lead you to shower them with gifts. Instead, it is best to evenly divide your children’s wish lists, making sure neither parent buys anything not on the list.
This information is only intended to educate and should not be interpreted as legal advice.